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September 11, 2008

‘Mateship’

Filed under: Australia's Default Culture — camharris @ 12:17 am
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The previous Australian government, and more specifically Prime Minister John Howard, loved the word ‘mateship’.  It got thrown around everywhere, including the constitutional preamble draft, and it was made into a word and a phenomenon in the process.  But I wonder what he was actually thinking mateship was all about, and why he referred to the concept so much?

 

I personally believe there was a bit of clutching at straws going on.  It was like, “Quick, what have we got in Australia that is uniquely ours, apart from the kangaroo and those other fluffy animals?”

“Well, we do use the word ‘mate’ a lot,” remarks a well-researched advisor.

“That’s it! We’ll boost the profile of ‘mateship’!  The Australian people will love it!  Tony, go find out what it means and we’ll get cracking on it.”

I kind of think Tony may not had the chance to come up with a uniquely Australian definition before it went to air at the next ‘Meet The Press’ luncheons.

 

We do use the word ‘mate’ a lot.  You use it to refer to someone you forget the name of.  You use it to replace the word ‘friend’ when you are around a bunch of Australian guys.  You use it to name a person you interact with briefly before never seeing them again.  You can use it to respond to a surprising situation. Some really close friends use it as a term of endearment, but I would suggest this is very rare.

 

I tend to not call people ‘mate’.  I just don’t like doing it.  I don’t mind people calling me mate, but I can’t help wondering sometimes whether people have just forgotten my name.  In the case where someone’s name is not known, the word mate is a great default.  I will use it to politely summons a male shop assistant or thank a guy on the street for helping me with directions. 

 

I believe that one of the most powerful forms of affirmation comes by using peoples’ names when you engage or interact with them.  When you have this opportunity to affirm so effortlessly in conversation, why not take it?  Using the word ‘mate’ seems to blow the opportunity.  Of course, if you do legitimately forget someone’s name, it is a great default.  It is culturally the next best thing.

 

When I think of ‘mateship’, to be honest, I think of a bunch of males drinking beer around a barbecue, talking about fishing, the cricket or something similarly safe.  I never imagine females when I hear the word, so I am wondering if they are excluded, or maybe just not as included.  As soon as I picture these guys talking about deep life matters, I imagine mateship being trumped by a deeper connection.  It is as if the friendship has become more personal, and the word ‘mate’ is no longer strong enough.

 

When it comes to mateship being likened to friendship, it would be foolish to assume Australians have exclusive rights to it.  Every culture has friendship! In my experience, I have found that intercultural friendships have deepened my understanding of what can be experienced in relationship.  So I struggle to identify what it is about the uniquely Australian ‘mateship’ that is so worthy of raising it up as part of our national identity. 

 

So how is it the concept of mateship in our nation can be revered with such pride, when the phenomenon behind this unword is so difficult to understand?

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